When it comes to parenting, everyone has an opinion. Some of it’s helpful, others not so much. And it’s hard to distinguish the advice that actually will make a difference in your life from the “fluff” that just fills up your social feed. So to help you sift through all the noise and figure out what really matters, we’ve asked moms for their best Honest motherhood advice.

Every baby has a unique rhythm and it’s okay that your little one doesn’t follow the schedule society says they should. Just find what works for you and your family, and don’t let anyone else tell you it’s the wrong way.

Honest Motherhood Advice: What I Wish I Knew Sooner

Kids need to know that they’re loved all the time, but they also need autonomy and independence. It’s important to set boundaries and be consistent with them, but also remember that they are their own people and they have their own personalities and quirks. It’s okay if they don’t always listen to you or do what you want them to do, but it’s your job to show them how to be self-sufficient and responsible – no matter what stage they’re at.

Motherhood is tough, but it’s rewarding in ways you never imagined. During those tough days, take the time to reassure yourself that you’re doing a great job. And don’t forget to refuel yourself with self-care, too! Because when your tank is empty, it’s easy to get discouraged. Download our free guide to reenvisioning, reprioritizing, and restructuring your life as a working mom!